Self-Love vs Self-Rejection: The Hidden Triggers and How to Heal Them

We talk about self-love as if it’s a ritual - a bubble bath, a candle, a walk on the beach.But the real work begins long before the bathwater runs. Self-love is not an act - it’s an energetic relationship with yourself.

Loving yourself by finding safety within

And if that relationship was built on old stories of not-enoughness, criticism, or perfectionism, what you call “self-love” may secretly be self-rejection in disguise.

The Many Faces of Self-Rejection

Self-rejection is subtle. It hides in perfectionism, comparison, and the constant need to improve.

It sounds like:

• Once I fix this, then I’ll feel good enough.

• I should be further along by now.

• Other women seem to have it together - what’s wrong with me?

  
  

These thoughts feel harmless, but they create a loop of self-criticism. Instead of building inner safety, they keep your nervous system in quiet tension.

Through RTT®, we explore where this internalised criticism began - often in childhood moments where love felt conditional or mistakes felt unsafe.

When you re-visit those moments with compassion, you don’t erase them; you reparent the part of you that needed acceptance all along.

Why Affirmations Alone Aren’t Enough

You can’t force self-love on top of self-rejection.Telling yourself “I am enough” when your subconscious still believes you’re not is like planting roses in concrete.

RTT® works by softening that inner concrete. It allows your subconscious to understand why it built those defences - and then re-writes the belief at its root.

When the subconscious truly accepts new truths like “I am safe to love myself as I am,” affirmations stop being scripts and start being reflections of reality.

The Moment Self-Love Becomes Real

Real self-love is quiet. It’s in the pause before you say yes to something that doesn’t serve you.It’s in the choice to rest instead of proving. It’s the voice that says, “I’m still worthy, even here.”

Through RTT® and subconscious coaching, women learn to:

• Silence the inner critic and re-establish self-trust

• Build inner safety through compassion rather than correction

• Connect to their body as a mirror of love, not judgment

• Replace striving with softness, and shame with sovereignty

This is the foundation of your Evolve90® journey - moving from self-rejection to self-love, and ultimately, to self-expression.

A Simple Mirror Practice

Each morning, meet your reflection and say:

“I am learning to love you - not when you’re perfect, but because you are me.”

Notice what emotions rise. Don’t judge them; witness them.That’s where healing begins.

From Conditional Worth to Unconditional Belonging

When you stop rejecting yourself, the world stops rejecting you.Because the world is only ever reflecting what your subconscious believes you deserve.

RTT® helps you reprogram that reflection - gently, deeply, permanently.

Ready to begin?

Explore Evolve90® - a 90-day guided transformation blending RTT®, subconscious reprogramming, and somatic embodiment. It’s time to come home to yourself.